How to be Taken More Seriously in Life – As grown teens and young adults, you’re moving into a world that no longer revolves around you. You need to be taken seriously and you need to set the tone in life to be sure that happens. For some, the art of life flows effortlessly and they always seem to be in the right situation at the right time. For others, it’s a bit more effortful, but with minimal personal training everything you desire can be within your grasp. The things I’ll share with you below set apart the men from the boys and means the difference between a job or just another interview, a raise or just a nicer job title, an invitation or a shrug and shaking of the head.
Dress Better And According To The Occasion
One mistake I see frequently with teens and young adults is dressing badly/inappropriately. This means wearing jeans to a formal event, wearing athletic clothes when not doing anything athletic, wearing baggy/sagging clothes, etc. Chin up, you can fix this all too common mistake! Instead of the latest game,is consider buying some new clothes and if you’re still in college or living pay check to pay check hit your local thrift shop. Appropriate clothing sends a signal that you take pride in your appearance and that you value yourself and have confidence. These indicators are important, especially for 1st time impressions. Life just sort of happens…. ask anyone that is married; Did you know you were going to meet your wife when you met her? Chances are you didn’t. Things just happen and we look back with regrets or nostalgia. How will you look back on first impressions you’ve made?
Get your head out of the sand (or at least out of your TV gaming system)
If you want to make a good impression at a business meeting, 1st dinner with the engineers club, or just a new entrepreneurs club to mingle and network, you’re going to need to read up on current events and things going on in the area. Ask yourself these questions; What is fracking? Who is the Secretary of State? Do you know the name of the Governor for the State you’re in? What is your favorite charity? Do you know simple geography? Do you know the main business in your area that employs the majority of the residents? Are you aware of which fork you need for salad? Do you know an appropriate wine choice with the dinner being offered? Read, read, read – and then read some more! Ignorance is a choice this day in age, don’t let it be your choice, and trust me when I say, it is not a respectable choice.
Groom Yourself Appropriately
By groom yourself I mean: combing your hair, getting it cut every now and then, taking showers more than once a week, etc. By doing so you will look and smell much better. It’s all part of growing up and being responsible for you! Are you clean shaven? Is there dirt under your nails (if so then invest in a nail brush from the Dollar Store and keep it in the shower). These are simple everyday things but they can also set you apart from the rest.
Be Overly Pre-pared
No matter what the event, with the age of the internet, in a mere 20 minutes you can have a fairly good understanding of most any topic. For example, if you’re heading to a job interview do some basic background investigation on the company. It doesn’t matter if you’re starting as a clerk, you should still know the name of the CEO, CFO, if the company is privately owned or publicly traded on the stock market, the number of persons employed by the company, and any other pertinent information.
If you’re lucky enough to be invited to a luncheon at the engineers club look up some of the founding members, how long they’ve met in the building, is it a historic building and if so why etc etc etc. These are simple things, they take very little time, and they’ll make a huge difference in your conversation and over all impression.
Don’t Use Foul Language
Foul language is something that just isn’t necessary. What sets apart mature teens and young adults who are taken more seriously apart from the immature ones is the use of foul language. Most educated people don’t care for teens and young adults that use foul language as part of their general conversation and generally don’t even want their kids to have friends using that language because they worry that you may be a bad influence. So the next time your with anyone whether you know them or not, don’t use bad language, as it’s a true display of ignorance and inability to make use of the English language properly.
Be More Open
By “be more open” what I mean by this is: shake peoples hands, don’t be all to yourself, listen and allow others to talk about themselves, greet people looking them in the eye, have good posture, and present yourself well. By doing these you will seem more social, friendly, confident, and professional. How you behave determines how others will treat you. You set the tone with everything you do.
Be A Gentlemen
Being a gentlemen doesn’t mean wearing top hats, dress shoes, formal gloves, and suit and ties (although it can in certain circumstances). A gentlemen is a man who is kind and polite to everyone, holds doors open for people, has good manners, is an active listener, is humble, and knows how to dress and how to behave. People (especially adults) would much rather prefer a teen or young adult who is a gentlemen rather than a bad boy. There’s nothing charming about bad manners or a self absorbed, immature young adult.
Thanks for reading my tops on how to be taken more seriously in life. You’ll find that a little effort goes a long way and that you’ll feel better about yourself and in turn the world will feel better about YOU!